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A Stand-Up Guy will: R emain by her side. Don't pick this moment to break up with her! She needs your support. Whether you stay together forever does not have to be decided today, but right now, she needs you. E xpect to be part of the solution. SHE'S carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents. You have an obligation to love and support that baby regardless of your relationship with her. S eek wise counsel from knowledgeable sources. Pregnancy Resource Centers will help you examine all of your options and supply you with information to make the best decision. P repare to tell parents and others close to the situation. Think through the relationships you have and how best to tell each person. It's good to have a plan rather than just blurt it out. E xpress yourself honestly. It's normal to have feelings of anger, frustration, fear, disappointment and it's OK to express that, but it should not be directed AT your girlfriend and should NOT be a rant and rave session. C are for her! She is scared and overwhelmed. Reassure her that she is not alone. T ell no one until she is ready. Let her take the lead in how and when to let others know. Click here for more fatherhood information. You may have dodged the bullet this time, but maybe it's time to take a closer look at your lifestyle. A Stand-Up guy respects his girlfriend in this case, too. A Stand-Up Guy will: R e-examine his relationships. Are you taking time to really get to know women, or is it a game to see how far you can get them to go? E valuate priorities. What are your goals in life? A promotion at work...keeping your scholarship...starting your own business? How would an unplanned pregnancy affect that? S pend time with other people. You know what can happen when the two of you are alone. There are just some things you can't do when you're hanging with friends in a public place! P rotect her reputation. You know how guys like to talk- boast about their "conquests"- even let other guys THINK there are things going on when there aren't. Just ignore them and keep your mouth shut! E xpress yourself with honesty. Don't say you love her just to get what you want. She deserves to hear the truth and needs to know she can trust what you say. C are for her! Little things mean a lot. Show her she's an important part of your life. T reat her like a lady. Be a gentleman; be polite. If you say "I'll call you", DO IT! |
Generally, people consider pregnancy/potential pregnancy a “woman’s issue.” However, Choices Resource Center recognizes that men need assistance to help their partner make important life choices. Research suggests many men have admitted to being confused when confronted by their partner with a potential pregnancy. The important thing to remember, whether the pregnancy test is 
